Within this Christian vision of marriage, here’s what it means to fall in love. It is to look at another person and get a glimpse of what God is creating, and to say, “I see who God is making you, and it excites me! I want to be part of that. I want to partner with you and God in the journey you are taking to his throne. And when we get there, I will look at your magnificence and say, ‘I always knew you could be like this. I got glimpses of it on earth, but now look at you!”
Timothy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
Today is the tenth anniversary of my marriage to Anna. Well, not actually today while I’m writing this, but when you read it.
Middle School Sweethearts
I first met Anna at band camp. I was pumped about band camp. We had just moved to a new town the year before. Anna played flute and I played drums, so there wasn’t much interaction at first. But, there she was: sandy-blonde hair, braces, and natural beauty. And there I was: brown hair, knobby knees, and 8th-grade awkwardness. But to make a long story short, we eventually started dating.
High School Sweethearts
We dated throughout high school. Our relationship was fraught with the occasional breakups over nothing, jealousy, and sappy high school love. We dated “undercover” for awhile meaning if anyone asked if we were together, the standard answer was “We’re just friends.” But, eventually that wore off and we came clean with our relationship.
Our relationship continued after I graduated high school. It was hard to stay together after we weren’t together every day. But we managed. Anna graduated the year after me. She came to school at the same place I as attending. Shortly, after she started school, we broke up. I was devastated yet continued to show her love. Not in the super creepy way but in the “waiting for her” kind of way. It was quite a while and a lot of learning on my part before we got back together.
We eventually moved to Hamilton to be a part of the Ramp. We dated the whole time we were both there. We eventually moved back to our hometown. Shortly, thereafter we got engaged.
We got married in August of 2005. I would have thought that knowing each other as long as we did our first couple of years of marriage would’ve been awesome, but they were rough. We were able to work through our issues because we gave ourselves no other options. I eventually learned that over-communication was the recipe to help keep our relationship healthy.
Since 2010, we’ve had 3 children and one is coming in September of 2015. This journey has been full of ups and downs. More “ups” I’d say. There’s no one else on earth that I’d rather spend the journey called life with than Anna.
Here’s to many, many more years!